Twelve months ago, I’d just started my final ever university exams. I was a bit stressed out, but nothing I couldn’t handle. There were a few things going on in my personal life that weren’t at all easy, but it was nothing I couldn’t deal with.
And then real life started. I sweat blood and tears into applying for a degree I couldn’t afford, and deferred it at the very last moment. I was so upset over that, upset at the prospect of being stuck at home with my parents. I wanted independence, goddammit. So, I took up the first job offer I got, and moved away.
It turned out that job just wasn’t for me.
So, there I was, in a new city, where I knew nobody, where my job made me work antisocial hours, where I became depressed and despondent, and dreamed of going back to where I studied. Then all my friends told me they’d be moving away, too. I’d be starting over, but it would only be worse.
Have you ever heard of Bref? It’s a French TV show, every episode only a few minutes long. A bloke, probably in his thirties, talks very, very, very quickly about his life, always starting with the word bref, anyway. And one episode stands out. It’s called Anyway, I was depressed.
He goes out with his friends, has a good night, puts the wrong key in the lock, and he starts to cry. And he cries for weeks. His friends tell him he’s depressed. And one day, he hits rock bottom. He realises he has to do something about it.
And that’s kind of what happened to me.
I’ve known for the last month or so that I was close to burnout. But then one evening, I did. I went out with some colleagues for a meal. A great meal in a great place. I had a great night. Got home, chatted to some uni friends, and started to cry. But properly crying. Big, ugly sobs. I haven’t cried that hard in years.
I went home to see my parents the weekend before, and had a long chat with my mother. We hatched a plan, after I got my thoughts out in the open. I’d quit my job and move back home. I’d learn to drive, save some money, then maybe go back to uni. And that plan’s given me a bit more life.
Back to the depression. I feel fucking flat. I’ve finally hit rock bottom. I’ve been floating around near the plughole for a while, but I’ve always managed to pull it back. Not this time. I think at work, some of my colleagues have noticed. They keep asking me if I’m okay, saying I look sad. I keep telling them yes, I’m fine, I’m just tired. I’m not sure they believe me.
But I’m sick of lying awake at night and crying and feeling like I have no escape. Because I do. I know my life is worth more than this. It’s worth more than telling people how to find Caps Lock, or how to print a document using an iPad. I have brains, brains that are rotting, brains that I want to use. So I’m getting my life back. It’ll be slow, and it’ll be at times painful and embarrassing, but it’s got to be done if I want my life back.
So I’m doing it. Just watch this space.